As an Empath and someone who is an energy body worker I need to have healthy emotional and mental boundaries. It can be difficult when my codependent family members are having trouble. Obviously I care very much about my family and I don’t want them to suffer. But I also realize that I need to stay separate to stay healthy and thriving!
I reached out to my wonderful network of wisdom this morning and asked them:
“How do I show my love while still protecting my energy? How do I help when I want to hide?”
Their answers were phenomenal:
1*Ask yourself “what I CAN do?” (instead of fixating on not knowing what to do)
2*Asking yourself what you would want someone to do for you
3*Put on your oxygen mask and do some self care– I’ve totally been slacking!
4*Reach out (send letters)
5*Ask them to tell you specifically what they need (general pleas for help can feel really overwhelming; specificity feels manageable)
6*Realize you might look rude but understand that youdon’t need to feel ashamed about your boundaries (give space to allow even better help to come in)
7*Help from afar with gift cards and helpful services within your budget– support those who are able to support in person
8*If you do visit, set a specific amount of time (like 30 min)and leave as soon as you start feeling drained
9*Take them out for lunch
10*Focus on your reaction to the situation because that’s one thing you can control.
11*Recognize your strengths (like researching and reaching out to other people for help)
12*Focus on your priorities
13*And ask yourself what a good example of your role would look like so you won’t feel like you’re failing
I am so honored to have such a powerful network of wise women in my life!
If you have any awesome advice to add let me know in the comments :)