Stability and Safety

My yoga teacher, Melissa West, was discussing how stability and safety allow your heart to open. Isn’t that beautiful?!

Safety is trusting. Knowing you’ll be held and accepted every time. Respecting boundaries. Communication. Warmth. Strength. Holding hands. Being there. Texting just to say “I love you”. Listening. Drawing near. Sleeping softly. Closeness. Holding space. Understanding and not judging. Love.

Safety feels unbreakable, calm, soothing, peaceful, comfortable, controlled, cradled, hushed, being quieted, real, clear, unambiguous, protected, undamaged.

Safety comes from never-tiring love, long-term reliability, confirmation, certainty, trustworthiness, reassurance, honored words, &being cared for.

Stability is balance. Strength. Knowing who you are. Stretching up and out. Trusting the ground. Having a foundation. Being unshakable. Being shaken but not falling down. (Strength is falling down and getting back up) Solidness. Ability to be pushed without leaving or going away. Resilience. Remaining self-assured. Being your own person. Not melting into another person or into a puddle. Being proactive instead of passive. Having boundaries. Being sure. Feeling certain.

Stability feels sturdy, steady, poised, confident, resolute, durable, well-founded, grounded, rooted, anchored, unafraid, plucky….

Stability comes from self-control, persistence, loyalty, endurance, being single-minded, undiscouraged, well-established, having conviction, having a lion-heart, & being determined.

What makes you feel stable and safe?

Wordy Wednesday: from Summer with Monika by Roger McGough


….Away from you
I feel a great emptiness
A gnawing loneliness

With you
I get that reassuring feeling
Of wanting to escape

photo by Laura Makabresku

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My mission statement for the rest of 2013

Absolute Activate Aerial BIG
Bombastic Clarion Complexity
Courage Creation Decadent
Devotion Exquisite Finesse
Force Gray Gold Hope Insight
Intimacy Kinetic Light Liminal
Lounge Marvel Mystery Neon
Partnership Peace Precision
Proof Pure Righteous Rowdy
Sensuality Serendipity Shadow
Simplicity Sorcery Sparkle Sugar
Trouble Trust Virtuoso Visibility
Vital Vivid Volcanic Winsome
Wild Wicked Yowza! Zen

Picking words I really love from that list and then defining them, I’ve come up with this mission statement.

For the rest of this year:
I want to live a life of Sparkling Visibility with my Exquisite Creations.

I want to live a life of Wild Sensuality and Lively Simplicity.

Eventually along the way I want to discover Vivid Intimacy.

What this all means:

Sparkling Visibility: shining, being seen, flashes of wit

Exquisite Creation: bringing in to existence beautiful and intensely felt things

Wild Sensuality: unrestrained and enthusiastic enjoyment and expression

Lively Simplicity: easy to understand and natural activity; full of exciting energy, outgoing; buoyant and responsive.

Vivid Intimacy: powerful feelings which are private, cozy, fulfilling; pleasing familiarity

what about you?

Wordy Wednesssss….um, Friday. Depression.

I didn’t write yesterday.

The thing about depression is that it sucks.
You’re not you. You don’t know who you are but it’s not you.
You feel like taking your skin off.
You feel like hiding under the floorboards.
Nothing you make turns out the way you want it to. Everything is frustrating. You feel like you fail at life.
You feel isolated. But you are so irritable that you just want everyone to leave you alone.
Your body hurts. That only makes you more frustrated.
You can’t cut in a straight line.
Things you like turn sour.
You feel deserted.
You want to stay in bed but that makes you feel like you aren’t doing anything with your life. Like your life is a joke.
Everyone is doing fun things. Playing in the sunshine.
You gain 10 pounds. Now you are fat and depressed.
Moments happen which make you happy and you think, “it’s gone! I’m me, again.”
Then you curl up into a ball and cry.
And you don’t know where you went.
Or what will really bring you back.

Wordy Wednesday: a love poem by Diane Wakoski

It is true
There is love that
Is decided upon
And love that spreads like a stain
Of ink in absorbent cloth
There is love
That makes sense of your like
And love that makes you senseless
About life.

-Diane Wakoski