- Drink tea
- Wear comfy clothes
- Take a bubble bath
- Get a massage
- Wrap up in a blanket
- Blow bubbles
- Light candles
- Read a children’s book
- Make a snack
- Listen to music
- Sit in the sun
- Watch a funny video
- Watch a good movie with popcorn
- Read a joke book
- Watch clouds
- Play with your pet
- Buy something you’ve always wanted
- Make a healthy smoothie
- People watch in the park
- Take yourself out to dinner
- Buy art
- Eat dark chocolate
- Make an epic salad
- Print photos
- Make ahead food for the week
- For every negative thought, write a positive
- Buy yourself flowers
- Make your favorite meal
- Write yourself a love letter
- Watch the sky
- Eat your favorite dessert
- Eat at your favorite restaurant
- Sunday brunch
- Film at the cinema
- Smoothie bowl
- Go to the park with sandwiches and a blanket and a book
- Peel an orange
- Practice good posture
- Give yourself a pep talk
- Mismatch your socks
- Eat favorite childhood snack
- Eat favorite candy
- Make hot chocolate with extra marshmallows
- Whiten your teeth
- Make a happiness list
- Watch Netflix
- Visit pet store
- Have a fancy lunch
- Watch cartoons
- Watch children’s movie
- Roast marshmallows
Here are some things you can eat and drink to naturally increase your estrogen
Broccoli and cauliflower
Seeds and nuts:
Chicken (organic with no added hormones or anti biotics)
- Self exploration
- Crossword puzzle
- Research a topic
- Play a word game
- Listen to a podcast
- Write a story
- Learn something new
- Visit a bookstore
- Go to the library
- Plan something
- Name 10 things you want to do before you die
- List 10 places you want to go
- List 10 books you want to read
- List 10 songs you want to hear
- Fix all the things that are wrong around you
- Be thankful for what you love
- Realize you don’t need what holds you back
- List why it’s good to be alive
- Practice forgiveness
- Do a puzzle
- Write a letter to yourself
- Update your todo list
- Go to an event
- Write a how-to
- Take pictures
- Plan a vacation
- Positive affirmations
- YouTube video
- Review restaurants on Yelp
- Listen to good music (entire albums!)
- Watch documentaries
- Take free course in your field
- Memory games
- Think of 50 questions and research the answers
- Read blogs
- Fake a smile to boost your attitude
- Smell spices
- Go on tumblr
- Go for a walk
- Wash dishes
- Water your plants and talk to them
- Go to the park
- Buy yourself flowers
- Go on an adventure
- Hula hoop
- Work out
- Wash your sheets
- Take a self-defense class
- Weed your garden
- Go bowling
- Make a cake
- Build a fort
- Dance class
- Farmers market
- Make breakfast (any time of day)
- Explore antique stores
- Jump on your bed
- Do a quick clean up
- Skip around
- Organize your pantry
- Do some last-minute traveling (groupon deals)
- Make your bed
- Swing at the playground
- Slide around in your socks
- Play frisbee
Meat, dairy, gluten, fried stuff, sugar
Eat as much of THESE as you want:
root veggies, fruits, gourds, veggies, legumes, healthy fats
Get massages, do yoga, drink lots of water, take vitamin D
- Call a friend
- Make a gift
- Write a thank you card
- Meet for lunch
- Write a letter
- Visit someone stuck at home
- Counsel someone
- Give money away
- Have a game night
- Go shopping
- Bake for someone (your neighbor!)
- Send encouragement
- Text something meaningful
- Teach something
- Reach out to your family
- Meet with a mentor
- Organize a picnic
- Ask about your friends’ kids
- Play hide and seek
- Shop at the dollar store to make care packages
- Go to a MeetUp
- Costco samples with a friend
- Email your grandma (or send a real letter)
- Go to a concert
- Drive around
- Send out compliments
- Organize a cocktail party
- Have a girls night
- Go to trader joes
- Text solely in emoji
- Have a swap
- Ask your friends to send you a joke
- Take family photos
- Get into a photo booth
- Ask for song or book recommendations
- Make out
- Visit friends at their office
- Go to happy hour
- Try on gowns
- Social media clean up
- Square dancing
- Take a friend out for lunch
- Have a photoshoot
- Talk to your neighbors
- Send your mom flowers
- Give as many hugs as you can
- Leave a BIG tip
- visit your family
- Make a treat for the person you live with
- Have a sleep over
- Pay for the person behind you in line
- Evening primrose oil
- Vitamin d
- Omega 3s
- Coconut oil
- Digestive enzymes and probiotics
- Tulsi tea
- Bone broth
- Ylang ylang essential oil
- Visit an art gallery
- Go to the symphony
- Make a craft (helloooo Pinterest!)
- Write a poem
- Decorate your house
- Revisit an old hobby
- Etsy shop (buy or sell)
- Make jewelry
- Make a mixtape playlist for yourself or a friend
- Switch up the photos around your house
- Make a list of 10 things you like
- Write with a journaling prompt
- Cook something you’ve never made before
- Take a photo for every hour of your day
- Write awesome quotes on your mirror
- Make a photo book
- Get an item of clothing that you like (but that’s not quite right) altered
- Remove stains
- Make a list of all the things you want to do before your next birthday
- Buy some balloons
- Edit your Pinterest boards
- Make some home videos
- Apply for a subscription box
- Purchase something awesome on Amazon
- Check out recipe blogs
- Wear a fun hat
- Get a new piercing
- Order new business cards
- Make homemade ice cream
The first step to overcoming hormonal acne is to track your period cycle. You’ll need to know which day of your period you are on. I use Hormone Horoscope.
You’re feeling more extroverted and upbeat
You need iron, sprouted, and fermented foods (think sauerkraut, kefir, pickles)
This is a great time to do cardio and strength building
Drink green tea and get your vitamin c
Your skin will be sensitive
Make sure you are getting enough magnesium (leafy greens, black beans, avocado, figs, bananas, chia seeds, lentils, kidney beans, pumpkin, quinoa, pumpkin seeds)
Great oils to use on your skin at this time: argan, jojoba, and rosehip
You’ll have some dry skin– use moisturizer and drink extra h2o
Increase your estrogen
Pay extra attention to skin morning and night
You have more energy and confidence– this is a great time to get our of your comfort zone
Your libido is higher
Drink raw juices and fresh fruit
Estrogen is up and skin is getting better
Eat iron and vitamin c
Exfoliate your skin with raw honey, brown sugar, or oatmeal
Use Grapeseed oil on your skin
Day 10-13 &14 (ovulation day)
Skin is at its BEST
If you are experiencing spots that means you have too much estrogen
Take evening primrose oil and borage oil
Get lots of vitamin A and eat lots of coloful veggies
Take a collagen supplement or eat a lot of gelatin and bone broth
Use apricot oil and rosehip oil on your skin
This week is all about focus. It’s great for stressful activities
Keep your blood sugar stable or you’ll be grouchy
Get a lot of chlorophyll and greens
Get zinc and protein (cashews, chickpeas, pumpkin seeds, salmon, sardines, spinach)
Do fun upbeat exercise
If you are constipated eat: bananas, broccoli, prunes, berries, green tea, pumpkin, pear, plums, and increase your magnesium intake
Anti bacterial and anti inflammatory diet (no grains, dairy, or nuts)
Evening primrose and borage oil supplements
Eat cleansing veggies (cucumbers, kale, broccoli, beets)
Apple cider vinegar is a natural antibiotic so either take it internally or use it as a toner on your face (make sure to mix with water if putting on your skin since it will sting)
On your skin you can use manuka honey which is an excellent antibiotic (you can also use raw honey)
The best oils for your skin at this time are: jojoba, Grapeseed, tamanu, and argan
Do anything that will boost your mood–lots of intentional self-care
Healthy fats and root veggies
Avoid caffeine and salt
Do yoga and take brisk walks
Boost your seratonin levels with bananas, oats, avocados, tulsi tea, hummus, kiwi, salmon
Take magnesium, calcium, and turmeric
Breakouts occurring–combat inflammation
Get your vitamin A, keep your pores open (unclogged), kill bacteria
Cleanse am and pm
No grains, dairy, or nuts
Day 25-28 (or end of cycle)
Pamper skin, drink extra water
Lower stress levels as much as possible
Regulate insulin (cranberry juice, lentils, grapefruit, berries, avocado, protein bars, cinnamon, dill)
Drink herbal tea
Support your liver
Do deep cleansing. (Nettle, mint, lemon, ginger, fennel)
Use rosehip oil on your skin
- Attend church
- Read bible app devotion
- Listen to some worship music
- Listen to an online sermon (I love both Andy Stanley and Elevation church)
- Pray with friends
- Pray for friends
- Read a physical bible
- Meditate (2 great apps are Headspace and Breathe)
- Donate to charity
- Make a list of how you want to feel (can make a list of how you DONT want to feel and then write the opposite of each)
- Wake up an hour earlier
- Write affirmations
As an Empath and someone who is an energy body worker I need to have healthy emotional and mental boundaries. It can be difficult when my codependent family members are having trouble. Obviously I care very much about my family and I don’t want them to suffer. But I also realize that I need to stay separate to stay healthy and thriving!
I reached out to my wonderful network of wisdom this morning and asked them:
“How do I show my love while still protecting my energy? How do I help when I want to hide?”
Their answers were phenomenal:
1*Ask yourself “what I CAN do?” (instead of fixating on not knowing what to do)
2*Asking yourself what you would want someone to do for you
3*Put on your oxygen mask and do some self care– I’ve totally been slacking!
4*Reach out (send letters)
5*Ask them to tell you specifically what they need (general pleas for help can feel really overwhelming; specificity feels manageable)
6*Realize you might look rude but understand that youdon’t need to feel ashamed about your boundaries (give space to allow even better help to come in)
7*Help from afar with gift cards and helpful services within your budget– support those who are able to support in person
8*If you do visit, set a specific amount of time (like 30 min)and leave as soon as you start feeling drained
9*Take them out for lunch
10*Focus on your reaction to the situation because that’s one thing you can control.
11*Recognize your strengths (like researching and reaching out to other people for help)
12*Focus on your priorities
13*And ask yourself what a good example of your role would look like so you won’t feel like you’re failing
I am so honored to have such a powerful network of wise women in my life!
If you have any awesome advice to add let me know in the comments :)
SNL Kate McKinnon Hallelujiah
1. Refuse to live in fear
Know that God is still in control, there are still good people in the world, and there are still things that we can do to make a difference in the world. Our rights have not been taken, yet. We will fight. And even if they cage us, we will still sing!
2. Refuse to take this out on my fellow human beings
Consciously love people who have voted for Trump. Recognize that they are getting screwed over, too. We the people are in this together.
3. Continue to be grateful and to enjoy the life I’ve been given
Write down things that make me happy, speak aloud things I’m thankful for
4. Stay informed
Watch my favorite YouTube peeps, read my favorite news sources
5. Do what I can
Random acts of kindness, signing petitions, supporting people, standing up for what is right
6. Stop using Facebook as a self-soother
Wean myself off, again. It’s so easy to keep scrolling and hitting refresh but there are much healthier ways to use my time. Think of other ways to feel safe. Meditate. Read. Take photos. Clean and organize.
7. Reach out to people I love
Writing letters, sending personal messages
8. Keep living life
Taking baths, drinking enough water, journaling
I am honored to know a whole bunch of inspiring, amazing women and I realized the other day that I would love to ask these ladies for their perspective on some important issues:
Health, self-care, anxiety, depression
I feel like it’s important for women to know that even when they feel alone in their experiences, other women have been there, too.
In this third part, I simply asked:
What do you do when you feel miserable?
(I’ve kept the names anonymous at the request of a lot of the women for when we get into headier topics.)
How do I take care of myself when I feel horrible?
If I’m physically sick, that’s easy. I have a visual reason others can see for laying around, sleeping, watching TV, etc.
It’s a different story though, if I’m not feeling good emotionally. That’s tough. There is so much pressure to ‘do’ and ‘go’ and ‘be’…it’s hard for me to validate just laying around, sleeping, taking it easy, etc. I don’t know if that’s because I fear others will think I’m being lazy or if I’m too hard on myself.
After this past winter, I’ve decided that I suffer from S.A.D. to a mild extent. There’s relief in that, but there’s also that stigma again. I’m not quite sure how to deal with it or if there is a way to prevent it…guess it will be one of those things I’ll learn. ☺
Miserable: cry. I get wrapped in my head and ruminate, making it worse. I pretty much think of everything bad that has every happened and may possibly happen and somehow embrace every wretched feeling.
I haven’t actually been diagnosed as having depression, but the more I look at my daily bouts of crying and frustration, it may be the case.
As a background: I have always been unstoppable, I power through everything like a fucking champ. However, it’s caught up to me, hundreds of fucked up traumas have caught up and crushed me and I have collapsed but have faith I can somehow move forward and hopefully soon.
When I feel miserable, it’s generally a sign I need to rest. Sometimes I will sit on the couch, watch TV, and force myself to ignore any of the other “to-do”s. Sometimes I take a bath. Sometimes I go to bed, even if it’s 6:30. If I’m emotionally miserable, I usually write and try to figure out what is triggering it.
I isolate. I isolate and revert to negative thinking always turned internally. I’m starting to recognize it now. I’ll call someone, I’ll go to the beach, I’ll quick jump in the car and drive to my parents’ house. But if I don’t catch it right from the start, I let that miserable feeling worm its way through my entire life and my eating disorder takes over again
Honestly, in my darkest moments, as much as it hurts, I find that the best is just to surrender to the tears, the rage and find a safe way to let it all out. Either by myself or to someone that I won’t hurt in that moment. I am not scared of the darkness – I know if I allow myself to feel the pain, that eventually it will begin to subside. We tend to hold onto it as long as we need it for some reason. When that reason starts to disappear, our grip starts to loosen.
That is what I have in this moment. Hope that helps. Would love to hear what others have to share. ♥
When I feel miserable, I eat poorly and watch too much TV.
Or shop online.
I haven’t been officially diagnosed with anxiety or depression but I obviously don’t deal with it well since I have stomach issues and headaches.
I’d say I’ve been mildly depressed on and off since having my daughter- the lifestyle change is something I struggle with. I like to be good at everything I do, so I struggle with balance and sometimes feeling like I do nothing well and everything mediocre, which I hate. I have also always required my very own time and space – lots of it – which since having children I don’t have.
It’s been so eye-opening reading the responses and seeing how so many women are struggling with the same stuff!!
Depression and anxiety can feel so lonely.
Crying can feel so defeating, sometimes like failure.
Our society sees any emotional or mental difficulties as being weakness when actually I think that it might just be part of being HUMAN!!!!
It’s been interesting to see some people list crying as a form of self-care!!
I think it’s so important to let women know they are not alone and that it’s okay to feel sad….
It’s important to remove stigmas so we can transition to a place of helping each other. Giving women permission to connect even in their darkest places could prevent us all from going too deep into that pit where we feel shame and loneliness and disconnect….
If you’d like to add your story, please feel free. You never know how much it could help someone else.
So much love!
Self-care has been something I’ve struggled with a lot. They say you teach what you most want to learn and as a massage therapist I’m ALWAYS teaching other people how to take care of their bodies and their minds.
I’d tell people to drink more water because I could tell their muscles were craving it….and I was barely drinking any at all.
Finally I began my self-care journey by setting up massage trades with a good friend of mine, Laura Harrington. We began to make a point of trading once a month.
Then I went to a chiropractor, Rachel Heneberry. With only a few gentle adjustments, she provides so much relief.
Then, just last year I started going to an acupuncturist every month, Emily Hanger. She is the SWEETEST human being on the planet. (In a very grounding way) She nurtures me and makes me feel so loved.
Then I added in a myofascialist, Lisa Shelton. She takes care of my fascia and helps me release holding patterns from stress. She also is really great to talk to and provides a wonderfully different perspective on life.
At first I would schedule everyone in the same week….and then I decided I needed something intentionally every week of the month.
Now, I’ve added a therapist, Bevin Yowell. Hello stigma. Why is our society so afraid of admitting they need to talk to someone about their life and their past?? I love how my therapist gives me constructive feedback and she gives me homework (simple stuff like saying HI! To my housemate when she gets home instead of pretending I don’t exist….)
Having all these wonderful women caring for my body, caring for my mind, wanting to know what is happening in my life: the process has been LIFE changing. Sometimes it still doesn’t feel like enough because each one of those women brings me another piece of my puzzle and I only see each them one time a month. A LOT can happen in 30 days….
Also, I meet with a friend of mine, Dawn Nay, from church for breakfast at least once a month. When we meet we might just talk about random things but I know I have permission to spill my guts if I need to.
In my private life I also love to do yoga and take baths and take naps….I have a list of things I can do when I feel awful. If I’m feeling lonely, I intentionally go through and ask my most inspiring lady friends out for lunch or over for tea or wine….it’s so important to be intentional.
Another thing I do is I use an asyra machine which reads your entire body and tells you EXACTLY what is happening in your body at that point in your life. It tells you what foods you need to back off on and what things you need to add in. I love it because it is so comprehensive!!
There’s also a website I’ve found:
Interactive Self-Care Guide
Which is great for people like me who can feel so lost all of a sudden and need someone to suggest things that will make me feel better when I’m not eating or cleaning or doing anything.
And finally, something that has changed my whole life and given me permission to feel all my feelings has been my hormone horoscope app and the website: hormonehoroscope.com
Gabrielle does SUCH an amazing job explaining these things that happen in our minds and bodies EVERY. MONTH.
If you’re a woman, go check it out right now. I promise you will learn so much!!
I encourage you to find people in your life who will listen to you and encourage you and give you constructive feedback. It is also important that those people give you permission to be who you are and feel how you are feeling RIGHT NOW. Step away from those who want you to stuff your feelings or pretend you’re fine.
In order to practice self-care, you need to feel it all. And if you can find some people who will stand beside you and allow you to do that, hold on!!!! Your life will change in a beautiful way.
If you need a massage therapist who will love you right where you are, feel free to contact me for an appointment.
May is Mental Illness Awareness month.
Even as the 29 year old daughter of a mentally ill mother, I am STILL learning.
Just today I had to come to terms with what REAL depression looks like. It’s NOT actually someone choosing to wallow or to just wanting attention.
Depression is not a choice. Just because something would snap me out of a bad mood, doesn’t mean it will make someone like my mom feel better.
Having a chemical imbalance is very different from being in a bad mood.
We have to continue to encourage and support even when it feels like nothing we say or do makes any difference. It can be EXTREMELY frustrating and very sad but we must continue to love instead of completely walking away.
I’m so excited that people are beginning to talk more about their struggles with being depressed and bipolar. It not only means an increase in awareness and a removal of stigma, it also means that the families and children of people struggling with mental illness can find understanding and there will be more information available for us so we can learn how to better cope.
Growing up, bipolar was so deeply stigmatized leaving me (an only child of a single parent) feeling lost. No one ever taught me how to deal with what every day life would look like for me and my mom.
My deep hope is that the future will bring SO MUCH understanding and SO MANY tools.
This is my current struggle and realization. I am sure other children of mentally ill parents will understand what it’s like to still be learning how to see mental health as something different from a quick fix even after years of dealing with it…. I still try to just “fix” it and instead I now know I need to learn how to just sit with it and be more understanding and encouraging.
Some great links about Mental Health: